He has proposed that everybody has a ‘love language’ in which that they are most comfortable to express their love to their partner, and as importantly, need to receive back.
The five ‘languages’ that he suggests are:
2. Quality time
3. Receiving gifts
4. Acts of service
5. Physical touch
Problems develop in a relationship when partners don’t share the same language and therefore, don’t express love and affection in a way to which their partner can relate. For example, if one person needs words of affirmation to feel loved and secure but their partner only uses physical touch, then neither is going to be satisfied.
Not everybody would agree with these categories, but the concept is one that has been explored in different ways, by many motivational writers. Some even suggest that each sex has a completely different love language and to have a happy relationship, you need to learn how these operate.
In my experience, I have come to the conclusion that everyone does have one or more methods by which they express their love for their partner and if they do not feel loved in return, it may be that their partner is expressing it in ways that they cannot understand.